Basic studies of brain patterns show that facing ones emotions seems to work in calming us down.
“Meditation and other “mindfulness” techniques are designed to help people pay more attention to their present emotions, thoughts and sensations without reacting strongly to them. Meditators often acknowledge and name their negative emotions in order to “let them go.””
And all these years people were always telling me to repress my emotions, push them deep down, where they’ll never hurt me again.
Although, in some cases I’ve found that verbalising and justifying abstract emotions can give them a tangible nature, making them dangerous. For example, jealousy. When I’ve talked openly about it in specific encounters, it’s given it credence and made it real, when it was never real to begin with, and now I have a larger problem on my hands.
As I get older I have to be very careful to deal with emotions and the perspectives they cause quickly after their conception, so they don’t have time to cement themselves into my consciousness, to become a fact of some sort. For example, if someone irks me and I don’t deal with it immediately, I begin to justify that emotion, and it becomes a kind of bedrock, a standpoint. ‘Now’, I say, ‘that person angers me’ and I’ll start finding reasons to back that up. That negative perception starts to filter through everything, because being unhappy, as I’ve always believed, is far easier than being happy. It’s almost like I don’t trust myself to maintain an open mind in the future, to allow that person to come up for re-evaluation where they may be found not-guilty.
Strange workings of the noodle.
Quote of the day then, I guess.
“The only way out is through.”
Nine Inch Nails